Wednesday, October 04, 2006

three hardest things

the three hardest things i've ever experienced in my life, in order:

1. the grief of my mother's completely unexpected death when i was 24 and she was 50;
2. infertility;
3. struggling on a daily basis, in real and concrete ways, with staggeringly complicated issues of race and class.

how 'bout you?


At October 04, 2006 11:23 AM, Blogger Sara Skates said...

ooooh....most excellent thought provoking post.

I'll be responding - I'm on my way out the door but stay tuned ;)

At October 04, 2006 11:49 AM, Blogger Dawn said...

#2, #3 and some family of origin stuff

At October 05, 2006 12:16 PM, Blogger Elizabeth said...

Yeah, number 3, definitely.

Along with that I'd say struggling with the fact that parenting is not nearly as cut-and-dried as my mother always made it out to be. She is a follower of James Dobson, who makes it sound so easy--just follow the law of God and everything will be fine. I struggled with everything being so hard to figure out and then just finally realized that parenting is supposed to be hard and difficult to figure out. If you're not struggling, you're not doing it right.

The third on my list would be the very difficult depression I went through in my early 20s. The only good thing about it was that I'd dealt with it, mostly, by the time I had children. I don't know how I would have done with depression and children at the same time--not to the extent that I suffered with it.


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